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  • Just as He intended

    October 20, 2019 by

    I look up from my work and there she stands. A little sugar, a whole lot of spice— exactly as He intended to make her. There she stands. Squinting eyes that twinkle with joy. An adorable, kitty cat dress. Sweet. Girly. Proper. Polite. This. This is the sugar. But there she stands, a whole lot… Read more

  • I choose to blame him less

    October 16, 2019 by

    It’s been 3 years since he confessed hints of his infidelity over breakfast. Initially, I blamed him. I blamed his wandering eye. I blamed his callous disregard. I blamed his all-encompassing love for himself. And initially, I blamed his adultery for the ultimate destruction of our marriage. But now, years later, my heart has not… Read more

  • Shift your focus

    October 9, 2019 by

    Girl, why? Why is it that we could seriously have the whole room applauding us, the whole thread lifting us up and encouraging us, but that ONE, that ONE person, that ONE comment, can totally ruin it for us? Why is it that instead of focusing on all the good, all we can seem to… Read more

  • Sinners yet forgivers

    October 9, 2019 by

    Sometimes they raise their voices at each other, they yank a toy from the other’s hands, they smack the other in anger and frustration.   Yes, sometimes they have their moments. In fact, they frequently have many moments. And quite honestly, not all of them are pretty.   Although we’re bringing our children up as… Read more

  • God-filter loading…

    October 9, 2019 by

    Harsh, unsolicited advice that lacks love and compassion. Ignorant, senseless assumptions that threaten to make your blood boil. Arrogant, hateful judgments that hurt your heart and bring tears to your eyes. Tactless, opinionated comments that cause the breath to expel loudly from your lungs. Unfortunately, social media is full of them, full of our keyboard-brave… Read more

  • Beauty for Ashes

    September 25, 2019 by

    Beauty for Ashes: A Birth Story I had dreamt of an at home waterbirth for over a decade.  I had dreamt about the peace, the comfort, the beauty of it all.   And here I was, hours away from realizing such a dream, and peace, comfort, and beauty were nowhere to be found.   The… Read more

  • Too opinionated. Click.

    September 23, 2019 by

    Too risqué. Click. Too negative. Click. Too boastful. Click. Too opinionated. Click. Too quarrelsome. Click. Too attention-seeking. Click. And because they don’t share our beliefs, because they don’t do things the way we would, we make judgments. And with the click of a mouse, we make a decision. We make a decision not to love… Read more

  • Bondage can be deceiving

    September 22, 2019 by

    Bondage can be deceiving.  It doesn’t always look like we think it will.  Bondage doesn’t always look like a cold, iron cuff clamped around our ankle with chain link after chain link leading to a heavy iron ball at the end.  No, bondage can look very different. It can look much different because the deceiver… Read more

  • What If We Changed Our Posture?

    September 19, 2019 by

    As featured on, Encouragement from Women Who’ve Been There.  “What If We Changed Our Posture?” By Jessika Sanders Genesis 3:10 “And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.” Matthew 18:3 “And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted,… Read more

  • Less about the words

    September 17, 2019 by

    A few months ago, my stepfather gave his life to Jesus. He humbly stepped out in need, raising his hand at the end of the church service to pray the sinner’s prayer with the Pastor.    And together we smiled. We wept. We rejoiced. We thanked the Lord for changing his heart and calling him… Read more

  • There is freedom

    September 16, 2019 by

    There have been times the Lord has prompted me to share my shame. There have been times he has prompted me to share things that have long been hidden, things I have tried to convince myself did not happen, things I have tried to forget and tried to block out altogether. And each time a… Read more

  • Perfectly imperfect

    September 14, 2019 by

    I bite my nails.My ears stick out.My knees are always hairy. I have big feet.My belly button is abnormally high.Just thinking of a squat makes my quads grow in size. For years I’ve struggled with these imperfections. I’ve tried to live with them.I’ve tried to correct them.I’ve tried to alter them. Polish to deter the… Read more

  • Taste and See

    September 10, 2019 by

    The sweet smell overwhelms me, stopping me in my tracks. I close my eyes for a moment. I breathe it in. I breathe it in deep. A long, intoxicating, full-body inhale. One of those breaths so deep you can feel the peace and calm overcome you, almost transporting you somewhere else. A serene smile stretches… Read more

  • Being in His will

    September 8, 2019 by

    We desperately want to hear from God. We know the importance of being in His will, The importance of being on the path He has laid out for us.   But how often we want to hear from Him on our schedule. How often our souls struggle with being still, How often our souls struggle… Read more

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